Monthly Archives: July 2014

“Same Old, Same Old”

I ask the person at the register, "how’s your day going?" And they so often reply with something like, "same old same old" or "it will get better at 5 o’clock".  Do you know folks who live this way? Is it ever you?

 

There are of course jobs with lots of repetition, and jobs with great variety. Lives lived in sameness and lives rich with diversity. And every single one of these is a choice. Now sometimes we have taken "boring" work out of necessity. But in the end, boring or interesting is in our hands. We can always set an objective of moving into more fulfilling work.

 

But what about the meantime? "Bored" is a perspective that we are in. While external conditions (e. g. job duties or environment) may not excite us, we do have the capability to take more interest in any circumstance we find ourselves in, even though that may take work. And we can use "bored" as a powerful motivator to envision something more interesting and taking steps toward that. This applies to jobs, personal relationships, places to live, etc. 

 

As the old saying goes, "enjoy life; this is not a dress rehearsal". Life is precious and finite. What will you do to notice your boredom factor(s)? What steps will you take to move toward that which is lore interesting and satisfying?

 

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“Peripheral”

Raised with the sidewalk and street congestion of New York City, my peripheral vision got extra practice that allowed me to navigate pedestrian and vehicular traffic more effectively and safely.

 

Peripheral or sideways vision also enhances my EQ-Life Intelligence "social awareness" capabilities and that helps me manage spacial relationships with people.

 

So how to use peripherality with other aspects of EQ-Life Intelligence, specifically "emotional intelligence"? Awareness of others’ emotional states in relationship to your own dominant feelings at any given time can give you a heads up on the relative degree of compatibility you have in sharing time and space with someone. For instance, if they are angry and you are angry, explosions are likely to occur. If they are sad and you are giddy, it is unlikely that your time together will mesh as well as it could.

 

So expanding your peripheral emotional radar will allow you to take the lead in assessing how small or large is the gap with someone at any given time. When you adjust your emotion (and who’s in charge of your emotion anyway) to be in closer sync with the other, things are apt to move along more smoothly (always a matter of degree). Professional meetings will flow more productively.  Time with a loved one will feel better (for both of you). Win-Win! And the additional advantage of choosing this practice is that it expands your emotional capacities and results in more personal fulfillment. Nice bonus!

 

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“Erasing the Gum”

Nobody’s saying Good Morning today

No one is sharing a smile

Walking this trail is like walking alone Feels like the loneliest mile

 

What can I do to help spirits come out

What kind of friend can I be

Down in the doldrums their faces all say Unhappy faces I see

 

Cheery "Hello" with a bright open face

That’s what I’ll cast down the line

Try on this walker and bicyclist too

Help lift them out of their bind

 

Seems like a pall still remains on the day Challenging me to arise Turn up the wattage and focus my beam For most it will be a surprise

 

 

What will you do today to lift the spirits of those around you? How will you feel when you do so?

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Celebrating Our New Office

We Have Moved!

While you can still reach us at 1-800-501-1245, we are happy to share that our headquarters has recently moved to a new office location.   We love our new space and are ready to receive phone calls and training inquiries.  Our trainers and coaches remain poised to deliver training in a variety of cities; only our administrative office location has changed.  You can continue to reach us 1-800-501-1245 to learn how our training and coaching programs can help your organization meet their learning goals.

“Well, It Doesn’t Just Come”

"Well, It Doesn’t Just Come"

 

When my ship comes in

I will do that

Or I’ll go "there"

When it arrives

All my dreams are aboard

That vague vessel

And when it docks

It will change my whole life

 

But I’ve been waiting

For years at the dockside

Squinting eyes are so tired

And strained

It’s out there, I know it

It’s just held up

On this quite empty dock

I remain.

 

Hold the line there’s a message

Incoming

S.O.S. are the letters

I see

From the bridge

There is clarity coming

All the crew there

Are waiting for me

 

It is clear how far off

Were my bearings

On the wheel’s where

My two hands should lie

It’s "my" ship

I’m the one who is steering

So it doesn’t just come

And arrive

 

So it’s time to take charge

Of the wheelhouse

No one else has the license

To steer

And I’ll take my dear ship

On all settings

Cause it doesn’t just come

Now is clear

 

 

 

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“Well it doesn’t just come”

"Well, It Doesn’t Just Come"

 

When my ship comes in

I will do that

Or I’ll go "there"

When it arrives

All my dreams are aboard

That vague vessel

And when it docks

It will change my whole life

 

But I’ve been waiting

For years at the dockside

Squinting eyes are so tired

And strained

It’s out there, I know it

It’s just held up

On this quite empty dock

I remain.

 

Hold the line there’s a message

Incoming

S.O.S. are the letters

I see

From the bridge

There is clarity coming

All the crew there

Are waiting for me

 

It is clear how far off

Were my bearings

On the wheel’s where

My two hands should lie

It’s "my" ship

I’m the one who is steering

So it doesn’t just come

And arrive

 

So it’s time to take charge

Of the wheelhouse

No one else has the license

To steer

And I’ll take my dear ship

On all settings

Cause it doesn’t just come

Now is clear

 

 

 

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Fallow Resources

"Fallow Resources"

 

We just passed the Amtrak train yard as we entered the tunnel under the East River on our way to Penn Station, NYC. There was barely an empty stretch of track in the entire yard for all the idle cars and engines sitting there.   

 

That got me thinking about resources in general and specifically within all of us. How many skills have you developed over your lifespan? How many inner character traits have you expanded through time? What helpful insights have you accrued?

 

But with such busy lives and so, so many such resources, some of them are bound to have become a bit forgotten. The neuroscience of the brain truly is "use it or lose it". The wiring gets dusty.

 

But your many work and personal situations can certainly use all the skills, positive character traits, and wise insights that you can situationally bring to use.

 

What to do? Periodically dust off your powerful inventory. Write or type your 3 lists covering these areas. Take a few moments to assess which you’ve been applying and which have lay dormant. Just these simple acts will stir them into conscious availability for application; at least for a little while.

 

 

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“How Much Catbird Do You Have In You?”

"How Much Catbird Do You Have in You?"

 

Our rail trail came through again. What a magical place. Along with all the other inhabitants living along the 60 mile stretch, it is excellent catbird habitat. While this species does offer a convincing "mew" sound, it’s greater specialty is as one of three North American mimickers; that is, their calls and songs sound like other birds.

 

So how does that relate to us humans? Well, one of the clear ways that we learn as children is to mimic those around us: parents, older siblings, friends… That’s all well and good as an initial foundation. The failed opportunity though can be that many people act like catbirds even after childhood. They forego creating their own songs in favor of repeating someone else’s song, for life.

 

The richness of this precious existence can be deepened through self-expansion; through self-expression. There is absolutely no limit on creative living. If you tire of one song, you are free to make up another; to try new notes in new combinations. And a deeply satisfying and inspiringly effective practice that enhances being a superb soloist is when you tune in to other’s songs and add to their efforts by joining in such a way that produces a harmony that is unique and appreciated.

 

So where are you still mimicking voices long gone? And what new songs do you bring to your communities at work and neighborhood and home? Will you listen with an open ear today?

 

 



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Good Enough

"Good Enough"

 

I had a dream last night that seemed endless. I was backing a long freight trailer into a loading dock and was so intent on getting the parallel alignment just right (for unloading) that I tried and tried and tried again time after time after time.

 

Are you one of those folks who shoots for perfection? Or do you know anyone like this. While there are some tasks that require what we would call perfection (think of the tight tolerances for a BMW German Engineered engine or the safety standards for the launch of a human-carrying rocket), most things we do in life do not require endless effort to get something to the inth degree.

 

So when is it "good enough"? That’s a very useful phrase so let’s repeat it: "good enough".  The Pareto Rule or 80/20 Rule (used in lots of ways) applied here says that 20% of our effort yields 80% of our results. That means that we might be spending 80% of our time to gain that last 20%. When is 95% quite good enough? Or 93% or 90%?

 

Something to muse on as work lives have gotten so overloaded and personal time even more precious.

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Lasting Impressions

"Lasting Impressions" -blog

 

My old friend the rail trail inspires yet another set of thoughts. The blacktop is the same found on roadways everywhere; it’s very hard! Yet on a certain section I walk and ride, numerous imbedded tire tracks mar the otherwise smooth surface.

 

Those tread marks have me think of our impact on or influence of others. For those of us not living alone on a desert island, what we do or don’t do, say or don’t say, has an impact on those around us; always.

 

Coming back yet again to EQ – Life Intelligence, how aware or unaware are you of your influence on coworkers, family members, neighbors… What are their first impressions of your interactions, or the last ones you leave them with? Positive? Negative? Bland? Bold? And like the rail trail tire marks, what are the indelible impressions you leave in your wake? What will you be remembered for? As always, your  choice!

 

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