Monthly Archives: July 2014

“Same Old, Same Old”

I ask the person at the register, "how’s your day going?" And they so often reply with something like, "same old same old" or "it will get better at 5 o’clock".  Do you know folks who live this way? Is it ever you?


There are of course jobs with lots of repetition, and jobs with great variety. Lives lived in sameness and lives rich with diversity. And every single one of these is a choice. Now sometimes we have taken "boring" work out of necessity. But in the end, boring or interesting is in our hands. We can always set an objective of moving into more fulfilling work.


But what about the meantime? "Bored" is a perspective that we are in. While external conditions (e. g. job duties or environment) may not excite us, we do have the capability to take more interest in any circumstance we find ourselves in, even though that may take work. And we can use "bored" as a powerful motivator to envision something more interesting and taking steps toward that. This applies to jobs, personal relationships, places to live, etc. 


As the old saying goes, "enjoy life; this is not a dress rehearsal". Life is precious and finite. What will you do to notice your boredom factor(s)? What steps will you take to move toward that which is lore interesting and satisfying?


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Raised with the sidewalk and street congestion of New York City, my peripheral vision got extra practice that allowed me to navigate pedestrian and vehicular traffic more effectively and safely.


Peripheral or sideways vision also enhances my EQ-Life Intelligence "social awareness" capabilities and that helps me manage spacial relationships with people.


So how to use peripherality with other aspects of EQ-Life Intelligence, specifically "emotional intelligence"? Awareness of others’ emotional states in relationship to your own dominant feelings at any given time can give you a heads up on the relative degree of compatibility you have in sharing time and space with someone. For instance, if they are angry and you are angry, explosions are likely to occur. If they are sad and you are giddy, it is unlikely that your time together will mesh as well as it could.


So expanding your peripheral emotional radar will allow you to take the lead in assessing how small or large is the gap with someone at any given time. When you adjust your emotion (and who’s in charge of your emotion anyway) to be in closer sync with the other, things are apt to move along more smoothly (always a matter of degree). Professional meetings will flow more productively.  Time with a loved one will feel better (for both of you). Win-Win! And the additional advantage of choosing this practice is that it expands your emotional capacities and results in more personal fulfillment. Nice bonus!


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“Erasing the Gum”

Nobody’s saying Good Morning today

No one is sharing a smile

Walking this trail is like walking alone Feels like the loneliest mile


What can I do to help spirits come out

What kind of friend can I be

Down in the doldrums their faces all say Unhappy faces I see


Cheery "Hello" with a bright open face

That’s what I’ll cast down the line

Try on this walker and bicyclist too

Help lift them out of their bind


Seems like a pall still remains on the day Challenging me to arise Turn up the wattage and focus my beam For most it will be a surprise



What will you do today to lift the spirits of those around you? How will you feel when you do so?

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Celebrating Our New Office

We Have Moved!

While you can still reach us at 1-800-501-1245, we are happy to share that our headquarters has recently moved to a new office location.   We love our new space and are ready to receive phone calls and training inquiries.  Our trainers and coaches remain poised to deliver training in a variety of cities; only our administrative office location has changed.  You can continue to reach us 1-800-501-1245 to learn how our training and coaching programs can help your organization meet their learning goals.

“Well, It Doesn’t Just Come”

"Well, It Doesn’t Just Come"


When my ship comes in

I will do that

Or I’ll go "there"

When it arrives

All my dreams are aboard

That vague vessel

And when it docks

It will change my whole life


But I’ve been waiting

For years at the dockside

Squinting eyes are so tired

And strained

It’s out there, I know it

It’s just held up

On this quite empty dock

I remain.


Hold the line there’s a message


S.O.S. are the letters

I see

From the bridge

There is clarity coming

All the crew there

Are waiting for me


It is clear how far off

Were my bearings

On the wheel’s where

My two hands should lie

It’s "my" ship

I’m the one who is steering

So it doesn’t just come

And arrive


So it’s time to take charge

Of the wheelhouse

No one else has the license

To steer

And I’ll take my dear ship

On all settings

Cause it doesn’t just come

Now is clear




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